Thanksgiving Check List.

Don’t even think of wearing a tie.

Limit your expectations (better yet, don’t have any)

Have one authentic conversation (golf scores, promotions, and past vacations don’t count).

If someone puts nuts in the string beans, say “MMMMM” and eat around them.

When Aunt Eunice brings her favorite family recipe of parsnip cranberry sauce, receive like the gift it is and share that you were hoping she wouldn’t forget.

Sit quietly before the day begins. The time will do more than extra sleep.

Make a gratitude list. (For those non-AA people, that's a list of 25 things you're grateful for, then add another 25)

Go in and lie on your child’s bed with your coffee in the morning and talk about whatever. (It may be the only time you get to talk all day.)

Put on the Macy Day Parade and don’t care about the lip-syncing.

Take a deep breadth at some point and think about the people who have lost loved ones this year.

Call someone and tell him or her you’re thankful for them.

Attend a church service.

Quietly say something nice to as many people you can.

Take a walk with one other person.

Have someone say grace. (maybe you)

Leave the adults at some point and play one game with the kids.

Look around the room and go talk to the person you think is least comfortable.

Ask more questions than you answer.

Don’t drink too much. (If you’re in recovery, don’t drink at all)

When Uncle Bob whips out his ukulele to serenade the gathering, when little Tommy wants to show his newest magic trick, and when your sister Alice cuts in line to be sure she gets the best desert, think about those who have no family and are eating in front of the television in their pajamas.

Don’t stay too long.

Finish the day quietly. Say a prayer.